“No, You LISTEN Mom!”

by Kelsey Norwood

in Family,Kids


The other day, my toddler taught me an important lesson. I was holding his hand, walking through the parking lot to go into Walmart, and he suddenly stopped and started trying to pull his hand out of mine and was really agitated and yelling something and trying to get away from me. Normally, I probably would have tugged him along or picked him up, both of which would have preceded his throwing a huge fit in the middle of the road.

This time, I just happened to hear what he was yelling. I barely caught him saying something about walking on the line. Okay, no big deal, let’s walk on the line!

The point is, little kids just want to be heard! My son really wanted to walk on the lines in the parking lot, and if I hadn’t listened to him, I wouldn’t have known that’s why he was trying to get away from me, and he would have thrown a huge tantrum.

Listening to what our kids are saying and being considerate of their little feelings is a great way to avoid tantrums and inappropriate behavior. Kids deserve our respect and attention, so listen to what they’re trying to tell you!

{photo taken with a Canon Rebel XSi}

{ 13 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Annette W June 11, 2009 at 6:41 am

Oh, I hear you! Unfortunately my 2 1/2 yo has a serious speech disorder…so it is hard for us to communicate the details, but we do pretty good.

2 Kellie June 11, 2009 at 7:18 am

This is a great post!!! All to often we just tell because we are the “adults” but if we do stop and listen we can learn a lot from our children. Even if it is just to stop and walk on the lines, or smell the roses or look at the big truck…things that we would normally overlook but that can bring great joy if we just stop and pay attention to them…all thanks to our kids!

3 Baba June 11, 2009 at 8:27 am

I know as moms we get too rushed and intent on what we are doing or have to do at the moment that we forget that kids have thoughts and ideas too. Listening is very important. Thanks for the reminder.

4 Katrina June 11, 2009 at 8:35 am

It is important to stop and listen. Even if I don’t always understand what my son is saying I always make sure I’m eye level with him– it seems to subside his frustrations– and offer my hand. He will generally lead me to whatever it is he’s trying to communicate.

5 katrina v June 11, 2009 at 9:34 am

I definitely agree on listening to our children. It’s a two-way road. They have to listen to us/parents, but at the same time we’ve got to listen to our kids.

6 eisbeckers June 11, 2009 at 11:54 am

Kids are people, too. When I think about my son as a human being, I more readily treat him with love.

7 Catherine June 11, 2009 at 2:20 pm

This is so true – it happened to me more than once (parents are such slow learners) – the tantrum happens and when you figure out what it was about you kick yourself for choosing a tantrum over listening.

8 Megan R June 11, 2009 at 3:04 pm

I totally agree! Thanks for sharing!

9 Sara June 11, 2009 at 3:51 pm

I agree! Too often I see parents on their cell phone and ignoring the child. No wonder why these kids misbehave and get punished. They just want a little interaction.

10 liz memmott June 11, 2009 at 10:11 pm

i love the comment that Katrina V said i think if we listened to them more, they might listen to us!

i think we often times as parents get into to much of a hurry.. I will make that a goal this week to listen to my kids more!

11 Adele June 15, 2009 at 10:30 am

I don’t have any kids old enough to talk, but I have tons of nieces and nephews that I have dealt with this so much. I think it is so sad how many people have kids and then don’t pay very much attention to them. Often it is in stores that kids throw the biggest tantrums, and I think some of them can be avoided if the parent would just listen to the child and pay some attention to them. I see too many women on their cell phones in the car and in stores instead of interacting and teaching their children. Thanks for this great reminder!

12 Jones - Keeping Up With Mom June 16, 2009 at 9:14 pm

I always need to hear this. Especially when it comes to my 4 year old daughter! She is always saying, “You never listen to me!!!” Which is true. It’s so hard to let them finish what they are saying when you already know what it is and have heard it before! But it definitely affects them when you cut them off or ignore it! Bleh, gotta get better! Love your site! K bye. :)

13 Sheila Oxley June 17, 2009 at 4:01 pm

I hear you about walking the white lines!! My son didn’t want to step on them so we made a game of it. Of course it just annoyed my mom, too bad! We had fun! ; )

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